Having the money, and what it can buy, does not make one transer than thou.. Thats just science. One supposedly well-meaning person kept saying, Im the only person brave enough to say this as if all my friends were twittering maliciously behind my back.. Where can a female with a male health condition go without causing stress and embarrassment to her, or to other patients around her? Except in some cases it can't be called 'maternity' any more it will be known as 'perinatal services'. In the documentary, Williams-Thomas retraces Diana's steps in Paris, where Diana spent her final days with filmmaker Dodi Fayed in August 1997, and tracks down crash witnesses who have never spoken publicly. They experiment with attitudes and lifestyles that may take decades to reach the straight community. Conversations At Scarfes Bar: Diana Thomas - Interviews In 2021 she went to a private hospital for an enucleation of the prostate. Close friends of Diana tell of how she always thought she would die young, either in a plane, helicopter or car crash. I looked in the mirror and I hardly dare say this because it sounds arrogant I thought, I look pretty. And do you know the thing that really touched me that night was the reaction of the guys I had known since I was an 18-year old fresher. Thomas is the Contributing European Sustainability Editor for British Vogue and a regular contributor to The New York Times Style section. It would be transphobic to deny my legally female gender, she writes, but she claims trans activists insist that all a person should have to do to change sex is wake up one morning, say, Im a woman, or, Im a man, as if anyone actually does that. Touch wood, the procedure went well. "Telegraph20200304">ce.co.uk/tom-cain/bibliography/ "name="Telegraph20200304">Bibliography Tom Cain AuthorsPlace", "Tim Dowliname="Telegraph20200304">ng talks to David Thomas", "What women really want? Only a racist. Personally, I try to define myself in ways that make sense, to me or any other reasonable person. "She would say, 'I think they are going to kill me. That meant I had a room to myself. I wanted to be a husband and father. She criticises how we look, sound, talk or behave, not accepting that we do our best to fit in, because we have internalised transphobia too. Diana is the co-author of the 2018 strategic leadership book, Be More Strategic in Business: How to win through Stronger Leadership and Smarter Decisions. I'm a fierce defender of the rights of transwomen, and a doughty opponent of anti-trans prejudice. But when Williams-Thomas tracks down his close friend Claude Garrec, he insists that Paul was a responsible person who would not have put people's lives at risk. If someone born in India comes to Britain legally, passes the citizenship test and gets a UK passport, who dares say, Youre not British? The argumentative, slightly domineering, Eton-educated man I remember (he was the original white privileged male), who penned a book in praise of the patriarchy called Not Guilty: In Defence of the Modern Man, has mellowed in a way that makes a lot of our conversation seem like a slightly frivolous woman-to-woman chat. Sometimes people say to me, Why do you want to be a woman? Facebook gives people the power to share and makes the world more open and connected. Williams-Thomas also meets with Diana's close friend Simone Simmons, who described Diana's conversations with Bashir prior to filming the interview. Her close friend Roberto Devorik says that Diana always believed she was going to die young. She has contributed to various publications including the New York Times Magazine, The New Yorker, Harper's Bazaar, Vogue, Los Angeles Times, Financial Times in London. Most normal people, who don't insist on seeing everything through a distorting lens of radical politics, have no problem accepting someone's right to live their best life. Now he is waving goodbye to his old male self. Her story shows us that it is never too late to have dreams and fight to fulfil them. I mean, the first few times I went out as Diana I w o u l d w a l k down the street and my knees would be knocking, but here is the thing: I could never go back to being David. This post may contain affiliate links. That's short for 'Holmium Laser Enucleation of the Prostate'. How did Bashir, a relatively unknown BBC journalist, win this extraordinary interview and, crucially, Diana's trust? She feels some need to bare all in the Mail, and tolerate their use of a pre-transition photograph. "Her circulation was in trouble, fast pulse and low blood pressure, indicating internal bleeding.". She writes of her delight at a few words exchanged with other walkers in the country, which she thinks indicate her being treated as a woman. AAA Entertainment, +9 more Florida Atlantic University, +1 more . And I said to him, Dad, I was walking round the house covered in make-up the whole time. In episode 44, guest host Mary McNevin interviews Diana Thomas and Stacey Boyle about their book, Be More Strategic in Business: How to win through stronger leadership and better decisions. As Bowies Life on Mars ends and the next song begins his 1974 anthem Rebel Rebel a mischievous expression crosses her newly lifted face. Old friends have rallied round: one couple even held a party to introduce the new me to our circle of old university friends. Her books include Deluxe: How Luxury Lost Its Luster, Gods and Kings: The Rise and Fall of Alexander McQueen and John Galliano and Fashionopolis: The Price of Fast Fashion and the Future of Clothes. Learn how your comment data is processed. I rowed in a men's Eight at my Cambridge college. Who would have thought it?. Diana Brooks | Flickr But I also blub my eyes out to Strictly Come Dancing and I rather like the fact that I can do both of those things.. In 2010, McQueen killed himself; a year later Galliano was fired from the creative helm of Christian Dior for a drunken anti-Semitic outburst in a Paris caf. I didnt want to be a Davina or a Dora and I am absolutely not a Daisy, so its Diana, which has five letters like David, she says as she changes outfits, pushing her feet into a pair of embroidered slippers that are, she declares with a selfdeprecating smile, a little too large for her size 10 feet. Language links are at the top of the page across from the title. There is a lot of nurturing in me that has gone to waste and there is a lot of love that is not being used up, she says in such a heartfelt way that I find myself tempted to give her a great big woman-to-woman hug. While in Paris, Williams-Thomas also questions Martine Monteil, the police officer who led the French investigation into the crash, and reviews the forensic evidence. And yet, ironically, I thought I was protecting my family and my marriage by trying so hard to be a real man, she writes. People who read her will be prejudiced, tolerant, or treat her like an acceptable human. Haters cant abuse you if they dont notice you. Then I wash my hands and leave. Her life of achievement is mostly behind her. The boys at school had posters of Raquel Welch in a fur bikini on their walls. We're born this way and we spend our lives working out how best to match our ambiguous, shades-of-grey identity with the demands of a world that is used to simple black and white. Opening my post recently, I came across an anonymous letter addressed to 'Mr Diana Thomas', and consisting of eight words, scrawled in black ink: 'Please stop writing your s**t in the . While there he edited a best-of anthology from the magazine. "Blood samples were taken immediately at the time of the accident and also during the autopsy," says Monteil, who reveals that those samples indicated Paul indeed had alcohol, as well as antidepressants, in his system. Mostly, though, I was 'love', 'my darling', or even, on one occasion, 'sweetheart'. Those who cant are portrayed as terrifying, big, hairy, Desperate-Dan-in-a-frock trannies when the truth is theyre just poor. Some of the faff , she concedes, has been both painful and costly. I can sing in a deep bass voice, and, until recently, possessed a beard, hairy legs and, bizarrely, a much higher than average testosterone level. The facial surgery, for example, hasnt left her with that alien look it sometimes does, but it was extensive, and the shoulder-length brunette bob she boasts today involved an initial process of hair weaving and extensions that requires regular upkeep at a specialist salon. That does not always entail the full gender transition that I am undertaking. "She said to me, 'I didn't know how many enemies I had. We all deserve better. Diane Thomas is on Facebook. "It was survivable," Treasure says in the film. Meanwhile, catch up on the last two columns here: But D is not good for girls names. I think I have a lot to offer any man, dont you?, Diana's column continues in Telegraph Magazine next week. Many questions remain about her final years, what happened the night she died and who may be responsible for the accident. "Because of all the tampering allegations, I wanted the Met police to buy or borrow an identical car," says David Price, a forensic accident investigator who went on to compare Diana's crashed vehicle with a second Mercedes to determine any differences. Lima, Peru, He took his concerns to the program editor but was ignored. David went on to become a prolific award-winning journalist and editor of Punch, settling down to married life with two daughters and a son. LGB All Liars, Graham Linehan and other extreme phobes have created a bogeyman, the sexual predator who pretends to be trans in order to enter womens spaces but is not really trans. she performed I dont go into a ladies loo to oppress women. Diana Thomas. Both I live in a penthouse in the country. During his investigation, Williams-Thomas meets with other close friends and associates of Princess Diana, who describe a kind, strong-minded and thoughtful person. Yes, I do want my prince to come. Of course, as my experience in hospital this week has shown, part of me will always be male . Diana Thomas Automating, accelerating, and scaling third party security risk management programs. He follows this with a report on a visit to the Manchester branch of Stephanie Lloyds Transformations where married man Samantha says Id like to bonk while being dressed in a tartish fashion. Then they say, Of course, we didnt mean ones like you, who look like women. But Im fortunate and privileged enough to afford facial surgery and voice coaching. We do not, for instance, talk about her ex-wife (they were married for 30 years) or their three grown-up children; two daughters and a son (I promised I would not write or talk about them). 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The general public also want us all to have our bits rearranged, and will ask if we have done: there is slightly more acceptance for those who have, but this is in theory as why on earth would you answer such a question. Bashir then showed the falsified statements to Earl Spencer to gain his confidence; Spencer then introduced Bashir to Diana. where he was editor 'David Thomas' is a rather common name, and there are several who have written books. Essays on trans, intersex, cis and other persons and topics from a trans perspective.All human life is here. The first is that we drastically limit male freedom of action by drawing rigidly defined boundaries around the perimeters of acceptably masculine behaviour. They accepted the evidently female nature of my personal identity, and the undeniably masculine origins of my body. I did actually feel good. Some of us cross right to the other side. Diana Thomas (pictured) says: 'Politically, I think we have to find a way to acknowledge and even celebrate the identity of trans people that does not undermine everyone else's identity'. That would be so much more fake. Internalized transphobia is also relative, but projecting it onto others is not part of ones privilege. The film had its world premiere at the Venice Film Festival on September 5, 2020. There are, it should be said, certain areas of Dianas past life that are not up for discussion. . Some people tell me that trans women are still dangerous men who should be banned from women-only spaces. It has given my lips a much more feminine shape, but I havent had fillers put in to them. [11] Bindel described Thomas's 1992 book Not Guilty: The Case in Defence of Men, as "a rant about how feminists have the brass neck to blame men for the terrible things they do to women, rather than themselves. Diana Thomas is the author of Be More Strategic in Business (3.71 avg rating, 17 ratings, 2 reviews), Australian Stories for the Heart and Soul (5.00 avg. It is unfair that her huge build gets her read, but life is unfair and that huge build has been an advantage to her. So five years ago, I could say 'I am transgender', and know that it was true and I had the psychiatrists' reports to prove it. Now, the thing about prostate glands is that only men have them. What is oppressive about that?, It is Dianas belief that trannies (a description of herself that she uses a lot) can bring something extra to womanhood. Oh, I always thought this track was right up my street, she exclaims to the photographer as she mouths the lyrics to the song, Youve got your mother in a whirl/ Shes not sure if youre a boy or a girl. Bowie was hugely influential to me; the idea that you had some choice over who you could become was a huge, huge thing. Articles by Diana Thomas Forcing midwives to say 'chestfeeding' can only undermine the trans rights cause. Thomas earned a B.A. The love I felt for my family was and always will be true. "He wasn't drunk, that's for sure, but he had consumed alcohol.". but that doesn't make me any less of a woman. Because I had known for a very long time that I was not really one of the guys. What impact did Diana's revealing BBC interview have on the final years of her life? Now we meet again at Scarfes and Dianas in a celebratory mood. Its like saying to a shark, But why did you go and eat that surfer? Because I am a shark, thats what I do, she says with a grin before adding, in a more serious tone, For once in my life as a journalist I actually felt I had a real moral purpose. As true to her new self as Diana now feels, she is just a little apprehensive about how Telegraph readers will react to the physical changes in her appearance. And just as it is racist to deny the British identity of a fellow citizen simply because they are an immigrant, so it would be transphobic to deny my legally female gender just because I was never a little girl. Heres a sample of the inclusive language, about pregnant women and people, she so objects to. [3] The book addresses the disparity between the rarefied world that luxury once represented- populated by private, family-owned businesses that catered to the aristocracy and the billion-dollar, mass-producing and mass-marketing industry it is today. As it was impossible to get my surgery on the NHS during Covid, I had to go private. I am going to finish in an accident helicopter, plane or car crash. '", 'I am going to [die] in an accident helicopter, plane or car crash'. So here I am, divorced and single at the age of 62. Becoming legally female and gaining a Gender Recognition Certificate does not require reassignment surgery, but it is very much part of Dianas future plans. David Thomas started his transgender diary last March, documenting his journey. I feel Im writing something of real value because Im describing the actual experience of being trans, when there are so many negative stereotypes. I am not pretending I am not still him in many ways. Physically, I'm 6ft tall. There are things in my life that are really distressing to me, but I am consciously making myself focus on the positive, she says a little curtly at one point. I didnt change my initials because I wanted people to know that I was still the same person in practical terms. 'My experience of coming out as transgender and living as a trans woman has overwhelmingly been one of kindness, acceptance, tolerance and well-wishing'. 'Call me Diana': Our columnist David Thomas reveals her new - Telegraph Diana creates another, the trans woman who just decides to say one day Im a woman without any medical help. Shes also fresh from a visit to a psychiatrist, one more necessary step towards the surgery that will complete her transition. And that I might be one of them. Her happiness may be genuine, but doesnt she worry that in writing so openly about her transition in her Telegraph column she is exposing herself to a certain section of the public that seems to be increasingly transphobic? David ThomasSenior, UK diplomat, was postedin Moscow when his son was born. Neither of those processes applies to women, whose femininity is in no way compromised by the clothes they choose to wear, any more than it is by the job in which they choose to be employed., Why are inappropriate clothes such a threat to male self-image? In 2019 Thomas announced that she was now Diana, and has written a column in the Daily Telegraph about her experiences in transition. Thats the internalised transphobia again. Honestly, it's not that hard. Text is available under the Creative . But did no one stop for a second to consider how bog-standard natal females, who account for 99.9 per cent of all births, and regard motherhood as the most profoundly female of all experiences, might feel? I had girlfriends, married a woman and fathered three children. The direction of travel is constant. Its amazing how quickly he accepted me as his daughter.. Write about our achievements, not the same old prurient rubbish. Diana Thomas (1959 - ) journalist, editor, novelist - Blogger [10] Julie Bindel, the feminist activist and writer, has criticised the column, pointing out that Thomas was previously a men's rights activist. He also travels to the U.K. to meet an expert who prepared a report for the official British inquest into Diana's death. It shouldnt mean risking peoples safety. These experts come together for the first time on television in Diana: The Ultimate Truth. French police stated that Paul was under the influence of alcohol when he took to the wheel that night. Diana Thomas. I have added the non-fiction books to my Writings on other Topics. Today she can finally reveal her new identity, DAVID IN 2011; DIANA IN 2020: 'I didnt want to be a Davina or a Dora and I am absolutely not a Daisy, so its Diana, which has five letters like David', DIANA IN 2020: 'Sometimes people say to me, Why do you want to be a woman? Im already six foot, but if I have the penthouse and the Michelin star I probably need the heels. Be More Strategic in Business with Diana Thomas and Stacey Boyle It is really exciting, she says when the shoot finishes and we sit down together to talk further about the dramatic changes that have taken place in her life since we last met, more than 20 years ago. It's not that we don't believe in the idea of male or female: it's that our personal experience tells us gender is neither so simple, nor so absolute, as a question of X and Y chromosomes. Conversations At Scarfes Bar: Diana Thomas. Concerns about being spied on were not Diana's only fear. His only concern was my well-being and the fact that he had had no idea, and he wished he had known. (LogOut/ I dont think thats a matter of public institutions, so terrified of defying the latest woke diktats that they have entirely lost the faintest vestige of common sense. [1], She has spoken at the Aspen Ideas Festival, Harvard Business School, Yale School of Management, TedxOxford, Business of Fashion Voices, and the Copenhagen Fashion Summit. [9] She taught journalism at The American University of Paris from 1996 to 1999. Only a racist. . The Telegraph on Twitter The reason for this is that trans men, who have retained the female reproductive system they were born with, can and do give birth. And it distracts attention from the need for better medical care for trans people, and protection against the prejudice, discrimination and violence they still face. Her 87-year-old father succumbed to Covid. Former presenters and reporters Dermot_Murnaghan Left 23 February 2023, after 16 years on Sky News. Privilege is relative. With any luck, that should be possible within the next six months. Along the way, I believe we need to acknowledge who we were as much as who we become. It had its world premiere at the Venice Film Festival on September 5, 2020. The last Tonight News with Dermot was broadcast on 28 February 2023. 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Almost the best times are when I'm accepted without people even knowing they're doing it. In his twentieshe wrote young-adult books under the name David Churchill, while establishing himself as a journalist as David Thomas. The views expressed in the contents above are those of our users and do not necessarily reflect the views of MailOnline. But surely, I persist, part of the dream she is pursuing must include the idea that one day her prince will come? As for the nurses who looked after me, they couldn't have been kinder or more patient as in lay there in my M&S nightie, from which tubes emerged carrying all manner of bodily fluids to various plastic bags. She began her journalism career working for the Style section of The Washington Post in 1988. David Thomas.Media: The dirty world of Mr Punch: Punch is fighting back by hitting below the belt. She was previously an assistant professor of economics at the Jon M. Huntsman School of Business . 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But as I emerge into my new female life, I find that I, and other trans people like me, are at the centre of one of the most bitter wars raging through our culture. Our eight content pillars celebrate the finest in Culture, Style, Interiors, Property, Schools, Sustainability, Hotels & Travel, and British Brands. So far, so normal. It moves on to a section called Frocks Away (p104-8) in which he discusses drag parties at Mick Jaggers house, Bohemian Grove drag events for the super elite, Paris is Burning, drag star Lypsinka being featured in Vanity Fairin November 1992 and in Esquire magazine, Wigstock, and a survey that showed that only 2% of women accept cross-dressing from their male partner, while female cross-dressing is repeatedly common in fashion. It is a priority for CBC to create products that are accessible to all in Canada including people with visual, hearing, motor and cognitive challenges. Her royal security was also removed. The difference became obvious as I entered my teens, back in the early Seventies. It is a very human thing to have dreams that you never fulfil, and how lucky am I that at my age I can fulfil my dream? I am not female in the same way you are because I have never in my life had a period, but of course at our age nor does any other woman. Facebook gives people the power to. as journalists, we would frequently find ourselves writing on opposite .